Frequently asked questions

What is a doula and how is it different from a midwife?

A doula is a non-medical support person who walks beside you before, during, and after birth. I don’t do checks, tests, or diagnoses- I offer emotional support, advocacy, witnessing, tea, and truth. Please note due to my own limited childcare at present I am not available to attend births, but I can recommend you some excellent Edinburgh birth doulas.

What kind of support do you offer?

I offer online support (calls, writing, somatic work, birth plan guidance), astrology-based chart readings for mother & baby, and in-person postpartum visits in Edinburgh. This might look like herbal tea, crying, venting, breastfeeding support, bringing nutritional soups, stews and natural healing remedies, a yoni steam/herbal bath, or occupying your other children while you take a well-earned nap. Or really anything you want the time to be!

Are you the right doula for me?

If you’re craving warmth without pretence, irreverence alongside care, and a postpartum and pregnancy doula who’ll meet both your grief and your joy without flinching- maybe. I’m not squeaky-clean or softly-lit, I’m steady, fierce, and honest. I live close to the Royal Infirmary in Edinburgh, and would be happy to have a chat in person or a walk in the park if you have other young children and can’t get the space for a call.

What’s your background and training?

My path has been unusual. I’ve worked as a legal assistant, a filmmaker, a sex worker, a writer, and now as a full-time mother to my son and to other mothers. I trained, and continue to train, as a doula with Red Tent Doulas and continue to deepen my learning in areas of trauma, rites of passage, somatic wisdom, and motherline repair. You can read more on my ‘About me’ page.

What is a limenkeeper/threshold-keeper?

‘Limen’ means threshold. I believe life’s thresholds- birth, death, heartbreak, healing- deserve to be held with honour and precision. I’m a witness. A tea-pourer at the edge of change. I’m offering to you what I’ve so often wished I could have had- a non-judgmental, mythically informed and reverent presence to witness your becoming, no matter what form that’s taking. I am not a therapist.

Do you support all kinds of families?

Yes, I support all genders and family structures; queer, solo, co-parenting, trans, neurodivergent, disabled. I’m trauma-informed but not trauma-evading.

Are you spiritual?

Yes, but not in a prescriptive way. I honour the sacred in what’s raw and real. I’m not aligned with any religion or dogma - I follow the body, the blood, the breath. If that makes sense to you, we’re probably a match. Above all, I care that mothers are supported to birth in the way they want, and are supported and held throughout pregnancy and beyond.

What’s your vibe?

Virgo stellium, Leo rising (iykyk). Warm but clear. Reverent but not precious. I’ll bring warm food and call things by their real names.

Why do you do this work?

Because I’ve crossed thresholds I didn’t choose. Because I believe in honouring what’s hard to name. Because motherhood isn’t a lifestyle- it’s a rupture, a portal, a return. Because I want better stories for our children.

Do I need to be pregnant to work with you?

No. I work with women in all thresholds- grief, weaning, identity collapse, creative rebirth, relationship endings, spiritual awakening, loss of faith, initiations of all kinds. You don’t need to literally be giving birth to give birth.

What if I feel ashamed/messy/not spiritual enough?

Good. That means you’re alive. There is room for your doubt, your humour, rage and shadow. We can light a candle and still swear. We can call it sacred and still scream. You don’t need to be soft to be held.

Why should I trust you?

Because I won’t pretend life is clean. Because I’ve sat on bathroom floors and in hospital beds. Because I have learned to stay with what others look away from. Because I carry reverence and irreverence in equal measure. Because I will see you as whole- even when you don’t.